Everything is pure to those whose hearts are pure – Titus 1:15 NLT.
Offence is a potent tool of the devil to remove people from right standing with God, and deceive and cheat them out of their blessing and destiny. Offence obstructs prayers and it’s counterproductive. It always works against you, never for you. Offence destroys the hope of the breakthroughs we believe God for. God doesn’t answer prayers from an offended and embittered heart. Offence always works against the will of God for our lives. Offended people hardly think straight or make right decisions – they’re defiled. When allowed to maturate offence only wreaks havoc. The issue of offence is spiritual. To the pure in heart or spirit all things are pure, but to those who are defiled or offended nothing is pure, even their mind and conscience are defiled. Offended people see wrong in right, and right in wrong. They’re offended by things that do not offend. Their problem is visceral, not surface. Their judgment is polluted in regards to righteousness, because the Word says to the righteous all things are righteous.
The problem of offence is the spirit of being right and self-centredness. When a person has the being right spirit they become defensive, play the victim card and act innocent. Not to mention that they find everyone and everything wrong but themselves. In their eyes they’re never part of the problem. No matter how little a problem may be they magnify it out of proportion. Not only are they part of the problem, they’re also a problem. They create a problem to a problem. Offended people offer no solutions, but problems. They make things seem worse than they are. They’re proud and self-centred or self-absorbed. They may be said to be narcissistic to a degree. They always think they’re better than everyone, kinder than everyone, more loving, caring and sensitive than everyone. We all know that this cannot be further from the truth.
As a result, most easily offended people are very evasive to deal with or correct. The way they think, reason, process and see things is contaminated by being right spirit, pride and selfishness. As Christians we need to deal decisively with this situation. Hebrews 5:14 says that the mature have by reason of use or experience have their senses exercised (or have learned) to discern both good and evil. In other words, when we grow in the Lord we learn to see ourselves, others and things in the right light – without being prejudiced or offended. Here’s a rule of thumb: hurt people hurt, loved people love, offended people offend.