Friday, 11 June 2021
“The LORD asked Cain, “Where is your brother Abel?” He answered, “I don’t know. Am I supposed to take care of my brother?” – Genesis 4:9 GNT
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” – Ephesians 5:25 NIV
GOD created everything on Earth and when He was done He created a man (from the soil of the Earth). He named him Adam and later on realized that this man needs a helper. The interesting thing is that He didn’t create the woman the same way that He created the man. He could have if He wanted to yet He chose a different route. He put him to sleep and removed his bone and created the woman. What is interesting is that when Adam woke up, GOD didn’t tell him who this female was and how she was created. Yet Adam said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”(Genesis 2:23 NIV). By looking at the woman, he knew she was part of him. This is why I believe GOD created Eve this way, so that the man will always remember that he cannot despise, abuse or ill-treat her because she was taken from him, she is a part of him. This is why in the above Scripture, Cain asked the LORD the question about him being accountable for his brother. Because Abel wasn’t taken from him, he didn’t feel responsible for his well-being.
In our series on love, I will dwell on the first ever relationship between two humans, marriage. The Bible instructs us, husbands to love our wives the way Christ loves his own bride, by sacrificing ourselves for them. Because they were taken from us it shouldn’t be that difficult, in fact, it should be a natural response (yet this isn’t happening in a lot of Christian marriages). The world says “charity begins at home”. Everything begins at home, everything. As a Christian husband, I can’t love the world if I don’t love my wife first. If you want to see a man’s true character, look at the way that they treat their spouse. Our very first encounter with love was through Jesus Christ. As our “husband” He first loved us and that standard of love shows and teaches us how we ought to love others. We love because He first loved us (1 John 4:19). This is the first marriage and any other marriage after it has to mimic it to a molecular level. This is why the Bible says he that doesn’t love his wife doesn’t love himself, because that means if you don’t love your wife, you can’t love GOD and His people (Ephesians 5:28 & 1 John 4:20).
Marriage on Earth is a perfect representation of God’s relationship with humanity in the spirit. We are married to Him in the spirit in the same way that we are married to our spouses in the physical. So you can’t thrive (be successful) in one and be deficient (unsuccessful) in the other, they are directly proportional to each other. So as a husband you have to love your wife as this represents the type of relationship you have with GOD. This then makes it easy to love others as you have passed the marital/love test at home (charity begins at home). People who struggle to love others, most often, if you trace their upbringing, you’ll notice their family dynamics were abnormal. So husbands, let’s change the world by teaching it how to truly love others, and this starts with the love we give to our wives. When your wife talks about you all the time at work, the women who are miserable in their unions will wonder what sets you apart. When they question your wife about you and she then tells them you are a God-fearing man, this is how we then win souls without effort, like a rental property making you wealthy without effort from you. It all starts with love at home.
So as a husband you have to love your wife as this represents the type of relationship you have with GOD